Why is Dependency a Killer?
When we become so attached to other people, places, things, or even our thoughts, beliefs, and habits, we become a prisoner in a world we created from unhealthy external dependencies.
We convince ourself these attachments are meeting our needs, wants and happiness, to the point we become blinded by our obsessions.
When the focus of our attachment is removed, taken away or moves away - we become the addict that goes through nasty withdrawal. This can appear as the ‘uglies’ in our behaviour, as we assert our way, our expectations, and our opinions upon others, resulting in emotional outbursts, physical tantrums, mind games, or sullen retreats. All of this is the mind trying to regain control over what we thought we wanted, needed and lost.
Our dependencies are a killer when we live in a cycle of focussing on what we think we want and don’t want - always giving our energy to either chasing what we want or avoiding what we don't want, but never really making any progress. This is being on the 'mouse wheel of life'. It’s here we expend all of our energy and time, wasting our potential and never going anywhere. This is death to our soul, and leads to the eventual rapid decline of our mental and physical vitality.
The dependency we have on others in a relationship, such as our partner, friend or family member, can become a noose around our neck when this person leaves or rejects the connection (briefly or permanently). Why? Because we have made the ‘other’ person the reason for our being, our happiness, our security, and the source of all of our needs.
As a result, we collapse due to the state of helplessness and dependency we have trained our mind to live in.
All this time we have not developed a sense of our own true self or personal leadership so we can stand on our own, discover our own strengths, and use our gifts, talents and capabilities to enjoy life. When we are dependent upon external circumstances, we become stuck, frozen with fear, and reliant upon others and the outside world to meet our needs.
When we can learn to be in a relationship without dependency or unhealthy attachments, we have the opportunity to develop character, resilience, inner strength and resourcefulness. We can give ourselves the gift of coming to know our true self - the mark of an emotionally and spiritually mature person, who can be with themselves and feel truly complete.
This is about knowing how to fill our own cup, using our own inner resources to find our true north, live our purpose, take care of our health and wellbeing, and ultimately contribute our part to the world.
As humans, we thrive when we have connection with others, as it is vital for our wellbeing. Rather than reject connection with others as a means of being independent, we can learn to have some level of trust in relationships, trusting that another person can add positively to our experiences in a healthy way. We need to learn that elasticity in a relationship (the dance between two people) can help us to grow our potential, and offer us the opportunity to contribute to, or receive from another person, whilst being comfortable in our own individuality and independence.
When we learn to lead our own life, with a readiness to embrace the unknown without expectations, go with the flow of the ups and downs of life, then we know we are being our true authentic and independent self. The rest is a bonus!
What we choose to focus on and how we see life through our eyes is greatly influenced by how we interpret what we see - people, places and the experiences in our life. The outcomes we get are a direct result of what we think and believe, and how we choose to feel.
Based on our choices we can either draw love, success and positive experiences towards us or we can create distance and feelings of isolation that leads us to believe we are limited, not good enough and separate from our true and authentic self.
Our beliefs create a particular energetic vibration that’s reflected in our subtle energy body - which is like a magnet for energy that matches our vibrational frequency.
When we see our world through eyes of skepticism, from our wounded self or from hidden resentment, and we engage in negative self-talk - we attract more negativity, poor thinking and unsatisfactory results.
However, when we see our world through eyes of love, gratitude, and from the perspective of our heart and soul, we vibrate at a higher level and we create an energy that attracts positive outcomes.
We can alter our energy at any time by what we choose to focus on - what we think, believe and feel. This can make a difference to the energy we attract into our life and therefore significantly alter our experiences and our results!
If we are dwelling on self-doubt and anxiety - the frequency of our vibration lowers and we then experience sluggishness, confusion, restlessness, and negativity.
When we focus on the positives, and what we can learn from our experiences, our vision and perception becomes clear and our outlook is focused on the possibilities rather than on the obstacles (what feels hard or what we perceive is not working).
A higher vibration induces peace and calm within, which creates a more open and receptive energy that attracts love, health and positive opportunities into our life.
Each morning we have the gift of a new day. How we turn up at the start of our day is how our day will finish.
What kind of day do you want to experience?
Read more here - “The Power of Soul Loving - A Spiritual Guide to Love and Freedom”, by Rebecca Gabrielle. Balboa Press, 2019.
Rebecca is a spiritual guidance coach, Tarot card reader and author.
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This year we have seen unprecedented challenges with the global spread of the coronavirus, COVID-19. We have not only been faced with the physical challenges of illness and death, we have also been stretched beyond our previous limits in terms of our mental, emotional, social and spiritual wellbeing. As a psychic and spiritual life coach, I sense and feel the pain and anguish of many people, and yet I also know what is possible for our spiritual freedom.
In many ways we are all undergoing a more rapid transformation of our spiritual self, which is urging us to love and accept ourself more, and to move toward a life that is lived from a place of true love, or ‘Divine' love. The call for personal transformation and the choice to love is to not only change what we are doing, but to see real progress in our life by living with love that goes deeper and further than our thoughts and our words.
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Back in 2017 I had no idea what it would feel like to publish my first book. Two years later I achieved my dream. This photo was taken in a brief moment when I met Reid Tracy, CEO of Hay House Publishing. He is truly a lovely, humble man with a passion for helping others achieve their dreams.
In 2016 my dream was to -
✅ Dream 1: Complete my book
✅ Dream 2: Publish my book
🙏 Dream 3: Reach as many people as possible to share the liberating message of how Soul-Loving can change your life. 💜
The experience has changed my life!
I faced overwhelming challenges when I made the decision to step out into the unknown to live as my true self and honour my own journey. It helped me to discover inner courage and strength, profound love, and a depth to my being I didn’t realise was within me.
“The Power of Soul Loving - A Spiritual Guide to Love and Freedom” is Divinely inspired, and offers insightful wisdom on how to navigate the inner and outer transformation that happens when we make the choice to change for a life that is authentic, fulfilling and on-purpose.
It’s not a journey for the faint hearted. I’m grateful that even though it was the most difficult thing to do in my life, I found my way to keep going - despite heartache and people who were quick to judge me. However, as I committed to myself, beautiful souls (friends whom I call my earth angels) were there to support me when I needed it.
Life is what we create, especially when we co-create with the Divine. There’s no perfection, we all are a-work-in-progress. What I’ve learned is that love for one self is worth it. 🙏
✅ Dream 4: Share the wisdom, and the Divine messages of love with as many people as possible through my book, and card readings that offer spiritual guidance and healing for those who answer the call. 🦋
We are in this life to learn and grow, as well as enjoy and live our best life. No-one said it is going to be easy, however if we are prepared to do the inner work, the reward is ‘out of this world’. ✨💜
Take the leap, and discover true love and a depth to your being you’ve not experienced before. 🦋
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Is a great life possible?
I have often wondered if it was ever possible to escape the perpetual rut I found myself in, never feeling like I was getting ahead. I asked myself daily, is a great life possible or is this as good as it gets for me?
Rebecca Gabrielle, author of "The Power of Soul Loving - a spiritual guide to love and freedom".
Rebecca Gabrielle has been able to see the magnificence and truth of people’s souls from an early age. With a background in psychology, counselling, life-coaching, spiritual development, and energy healing, Rebecca has fine-tuned her psychic and intuitive skills to connect with the Divine to receive and deliver messages of unconditional love. Through her writing, soul-coaching and card readings she assists people to reconnect with their true self so they can experience clarity, peace of mind, joy and passion for doing what they love.