Well, it’s a good starting point when you realise what true love is not!
Did the past year disappoint you in matters of the heart? Chances are there are many people who experienced relationships that didn’t fulfil their expectations. For some, relationships may have ended up in a disaster as a result of lies and betrayal. For others it may have been a realisation that two people were travelling different paths with very different values. Perhaps love eluded you for other reasons.
If you managed to avoid disasters in love, you may have felt a deep void in your heart and an aching desire to fill it with the love of another person. Perhaps you have spent days, weeks, months or longer, seeking love, yearning for connection and deep fulfilment. However, as time passes you noticed the void remains, or worse still, it may have deepened. There’s a chance you may have given up and felt the pain of rejection, hopelessness, and the belief that true love has eluded you forever (well, almost).
Fear not my friend. Real love does exist, and it begins with you. What? Yes, it’s true. You may have given all your attention and focus to searching for love outside of yourself. You may have looked for validation and approval that you are good enough, or you have longed for connection with someone else, perhaps from a person who has become the obsessive object of your attention.
No matter how much you tried to give love and yearn for the same in return, love may have eluded you over and over. Why do you suppose this is?
We can change how we feel by changing how we think about things. Sometimes it just takes practice in the form of small changes here and there, either in how we respond to people and situations, doing something different or changing our language and how we frame things.
Sometimes we can feel stuck in a rut because we are conditioned to think and believe certain things about ourselves and others. When we are so used to thinking that what 'we' believe is true, we can convince our self this is reality and there is no other way. So what can you do?
Rumi’s words resonate at the core of my being, and remind me that life is too precious to live stressed out every day because I am not doing what I love or being the ‘real’ me.
So what does Rumi mean by these profound words?
Has there been a moment in your life when you’ve realised that you’ve been travelling down a path that just doesn’t feel right? Perhaps you are somewhat happy but life doesn’t feel fulfilling. Have you felt as if your mind is fighting with your inner self?
Sometimes the person we appear to be on the outside is disconnected or in conflict with the real person that we feel and believe to be on the inside.
Have you ever wondered why?
What is the difference between setting goals and the power of intention?
We often hear talk of the importance of setting goals to achieve specific outcomes or to fulfil our dreams. Goals are excellent to draw our attention and sharpen our focus so that we know what direction we are heading and what we are aiming for within a specific timeframe.
However we need to be careful that those same goals and deadlines that we set do not also limit us and create disappointment and hopelessness when we don't reach them. Let’s face it, we may start out with a great energy and enthusiasm, but sometimes life just ‘happens’ and there are some circumstances that are out of our control. Which means that sometimes our goals are not met in the timeframe we are expecting.
When we are rushed and super busy, which for many of us it may be every day, we don't notice the little miracles and blessings in our life.
Sometimes we get hooked on the belief that miracles or abundance in life looks like something big, dramatic, and equates to $$ in our pocket.
But in reality - this is not what real abundance or what miracles are made of. Cash in the hand or money in the bank may feel like a miracle, but it's not what adds real value to our life.
In what ways have you felt gratitude in your life?
It may have been when you experienced that warm feeling of being loved or cared for, or feeling thankful that your current needs were being met.
Feeling grateful feels good, and it can have a positive effect on our health and emotional well-being.
But how do we stay feeling grateful? Sometimes it just feels too hard!
Can you imagine feeling free from clutter in your life?
Clutter is toxic and does more harm to our emotional, mental and physical wellbeing than we realise.
The negative effects of clutter in our life include: